if – wish – want – can’t – try – think – but
Our language is powerful in more ways than some may have routinely considered. Many years ago, long before we had “languages” that were verbally complex, people still communicated. As populations grew and groups separated to become tribes of their own, new languages and tongues developed
Now, in our current era, we have many distinctly different languages. The good news is we are able to at least master our own (native) tongue. As with any language, many strains and influences have entered in. Some combinations are specific such as one and one, and some (combinations) are potentially more open to conjecture or a variety of understandings.
Many people do admit that certain ‘words’ are not always required for optimum communication. Still others sometimes use “softer” words. Words with a weaker application when used in casual context. The following is a brief on a basic tool set of seven (7) words and how they may be effectively replaced in support of absolute or more affirmative communications.
The key is to listen to what we are saying first. When we hear one of the selected words we have elected to be aware of in our own talk or communication, we can immediately re-state the message or thought with a more affirmative combination. Immediate correction before continuing works the best to eliminate any questionable habit that may prove worth changing.
We all know that it is not necessary to say; “I can’t.” There are probably millions of talks or writings on this particular word combination. At minimum, it is a first person and need not be said. The alternative is simply to focus on and state what we, or others, can do. Granted, it may be a truth to say; (for some) “I can’t write you a check for one million dollars (that will clear).” Or, we may be able to say; “Hey, I can’t go through that brick wall,” or etc. No problem. These are certainly potential or assumed truths (for now).
The gift is; as we re-phrase with what we can do, or what we truly mean without a doubt, we begin to reduce the possible rote usage of the conservative or limiting word combinations. Plus, we are more inclined to focus on what we, as well as what others, can do.
As we eliminate the selected words as illustrated in the reminder poster, we not only begin to verbally communicate more affirmatively, we also commence a more productive internal communication process. Another gift of committing to the most affirmative or thought specific language combinations possible is; we reduce the risk, through rote or otherwise, of using one of the 7 words noted in a questionable fashion when communicating. There may also be some who might respect our authority or our position and potentially believe more, or in error, the simple or even the complex message that we are innocently or sincerely intending.
No more kinda, sorta, woulda, shoulda – anything with an “a” at the end, re-phrase with confindence. Get this and you can take control of any conversation.
How FUN is that?